Sadly, I get most of my news from Yahoo news. I say sadly because it is just one source. Back when we were D.I.N.K.S. I got my news from CNN, Fox, NPR and others. Oh well:) On to my point. I read an article “Parents who hate parenting: the latest trend?”
My first thought was is this really a “latest trend?” I always laugh when I hear parents say “I just didn’t realize how tough this was going to be.” Really? Do people get a lobotomy right before considering to have a kid or kids? Am I the only child that remembers how tough I was as a child? Does no one notice other kids at the grocery store, restaurants, the mall, etc…? Oh… I get it… that is “those parents” that don’t know what they are doing. When you have a kid you will do it “right” huh?
Have I been surprised as a parent? Ya sure you betcha. But did I think I would be happier personally? Nope. Did I think it was a good financial move? No way. But have I regretted having Bruiser, Dash and Princess? Definitely not. I laughed when we found out we were having Triplets because I knew this was going to be a beating. No, really. See, I am a realist, the CFO says I am a pessimist:) I just plan for the worst and hope for the best.
Back to the point of the article. I do not believe that it is “new” that parents don’t like parenting. The word “parenting” SCREAMS “work” to me… don’t do this, try it this way, stop hitting, why don’t you listen, hurry up, slow down, blah, blah, blah… But I do think that some things are new.
People are more ignorant to what it takes to raise kids. We feel that we can do anything we set our mind to do. Let’s face it, if we can’t do it we can just outsource it! We do the same with our kids. I am not throwing stones, we had a nanny for a year.
We want all the “good stuff” without the hard work. We want the house, not the mortgage. We want the car, not the payment. We want a family without having to parent.
We have lost our minds. Thoughts of family at holidays seems to be one glaring example. I myself sometimes fall into this. Isn’t easy to day dream about everyone around the table as Mom sits down just in time for Dad to carve the turkey? But I know few people that look forward to their own families holidays. Pack the car, drive, poor sleeping arrangements, old wounds opening up, Uncle so and so that is sloshed before the turkey is out of the brine, Aunt so and so that still pinches cheeks, etc… As I tell the CFO when she proposes a trip for us “I am more than willing to go but I wouldn’t say want.” Case in point: Disney. Sure the PR people for the mouse want you to think about all the “fun.” But I have been there. It is still a beating to get down there, full of people (many of which still think B.O. is OK), expensive, etc… Yes, it would/will be fun but so is graduating college but I also knew I needed 127 hours of classes to get there.
I would love to rant more but Dash woke up and wants to play go fish.
You can never underestimate the stupidity of the general public.
Scott Adams (1957 – ), The Dilbert Future
Don’t worry that children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you.